Saturday, March 26, 2011

"Why do you exist?"

I received an email via the contact form on the website ( that was a bit "sassy". It was from a fake email address but signed it 'MD'. I know one person with those initials and let me just say, that I am not making assumptions...just stating facts.
Anyhow, here is the email.

"i came to your website to find out what exactly royal fabulosity was and I notice that you do the same thing 20 other women do. I don't understand why you exist. You guys are all doing the same thing. Seems like a waste of time" MD

Without letting my emotions get in the way, I am going to answer this for YOU and all the other readers who might be asking similar questions.

I "exist" for one reason, to provide women with a support system that I wasn't supplied with. Because I believe that we are all beautiful, smart, amazing and full of potential that has yet to be met. I am NOT like everyone else, not even like the other "20" women who you are grouping me with. To be honest, I have done my research and there is not ONE other person in the united states or Mexico who does what I do or what Royal Fabulosity does. Hence; the reason we are currently going through the trademark process. RF, is a unique company that encompasses fashion, self help, celebrity, clinicians, therapists and affiliate companies all aimed at women. Notice, I did not say plus size women or thin women or broken women! We are here to support ALL women in any way possible. We are a company that es above and beyond to meet everyones expectation. RF and its staff will ensure that no one leaves with questions or any yearning.
Aside from this we are readily accessible. We are reachable via phone, email, text, fb.twitter and in person consultations at ANY time during the year! We are not only available to you when an event is coming up. We build relationships with all staff from volunteers, models, presenters, vendors designers etc...
We get get as much from every event we do that an attendee or sponsor/vendor does.
Therefore; I am not part of a trend. I am not doing the same thing as the rest. I am not your typical individual.
I am a leader. a teacher. A friend. An assistant. A referral source. A long term friend you can reach out to.
Any questions?

Monday, March 21, 2011

life according to -- Perseverance might be deadly!

By definition:
per·se·ver·ance      [pur-suh-veer-uhns] Show IPA
1. steady persistence in a course of action, a purpose, a state, etc., especially in spite of difficulties, obstacles, or discouragement.
2. Theology . continuance in a state of grace to the end, leading to eternal salvation.

     As you see, perseverance basically means never giving up. This in deed causes an issue, with me anyhow. I am an avid believer that you should complete any task that you start. Never quit. Never give up. Changing your mind is not an option. however; what happens when you have given it your all, your 100% and tried over and over again upon stumble and you still aren't near task completion?

When the world says, "Give up," Hope whispers, "Try it one more time."~Author Unknown

Here is my thought process, perseverance is a bitch! i have been working on a project for years. Yes, years! i haven't gotten anywhere near my goal but i continue to give it my all and make strides toward it and hope to see it one day be bigger than i imagined. i have done things that a person should never do for the sake of ;not giving up'. I have compromised my health, financial freedom and my life; thinking that "this is going to take off," and it has not. I've even contemplated doing illegal stuff (not that i ever will, I'm too chicken shit) in hope that i would finally close "this chapter".
Let me say this, only 2 people know of this project, let me rephrase...
Only 3 people know of this project, one of them being me and 2 of those people would never judge me or look at me any different for not completing or for saying "i have done all i can and given it my all but this is not attainable." I am not one of the 2.

The difference between perseverance and obstinacy is that one comes from a strong will, and the other from a strong won't. ~Henry Ward Beecher

Hence; why i say, 'perseverance might be deadly'. i feel as though i got to the end of my rope, tied a knot and I'm just hanging there. like a dumb ass, waiting for a light bulb, reminiscent of old cartoons that lacked vocals. I guess what i am saying, is that i have given up on this journey. i have decided to not pursue the road i have been on for years. i spend hours thinking about it in many different angles and in which way to approach it. There are many freeways that will get you on the road to Las Vegas but we stick with a familiar one. Never venturing out or risking traffic on the 605 because if it's not broken why fix it? well, in this jibberish full of sayings my conclusion is this...

If one dream should fall and break into a thousand pieces, never be afraid to pick one of those pieces up and begin again.  ~Flavia Weedn

My dream is broken, in millions of little pieces. Today, i decide to venture on the 605 in order to complete my 8 year old project!

 frequently-regularly-often trip while reaching for my high ideals.  Then I giggle, or cry, and get back up.

Life according to me--rainy day fashion

I am the type of person who likes to write things down. You know, hours i have worked, phone numbers i need, meetings i need to attend and wardrobe i am going to wear every week. Yes, i write down what i am going to wear the week following. Fashion is so important in my life and i will tell you why right now. Fashion, is an easy way to express yourself. You can show your daily emotion, what you look up to, what type of lifestyle you live etc...
I am the queen of all hats, meaning; i am a mother, i am a CEO (, an author and i work as a behavioral therapist for children in the autism spectrum to name a few. Granted i take on these various hats throughout the day and my wardrobe changes maybee twice regardless of what i am working on, unless there is something major going on such as a dinner or meeting. but i digress, todays blog is about my obsession for writting things down and how it was interupted with the crazy rain!
This weeks wardrobe reflects the transition of winter into spring. I have arranged various mix and match seasonal pieces that will allow me to transition with the weather. leggins,jeggins,slacks, cardigans etc.. black, pink white and blue all neatly organized each on its 4 tier hanger so that each outfit is placed together with shoes, handbags and undergarments all on a nice wardrobe rack.
Then, it rained! it poured, it blew so hard my neatly contrived "snookie" poof was lopsided and out of place! The cute leggings, and sequined tunic with over the knee boots was bo longer acceptable. i knew i must remain warm and somewhat dry so i decided to search my closet. (my real closet, not the wardrobe rack) i pushed and pulled all the way towards the back, you know, where last seasons (winter) clothing is at. I came to my colorful array of velour suits. "Yes!, that's what i'll wear." i have seen and heard alot of slack for people who wear velour suits, saying that its not fashionable, cute or flattering. I beg to differ! If you are able to accessorize, ANY outfit will be fashionable, cute and flattering!
I settle on an olive green velour suit, tan Ugg boots, tan Coach bag and gold jewlery. i have to say i am looking pretty spiffy to go see a client who will eventually, pull on my 'snooky' poof, grab at me jewlery and step on my bag! It does't matter, because it will all happen with me looking amazingly fab in my last minute rainy day outfit!

What is your last minute rainy day outfit?